I want to help, but I do not know what to do.
You do not need to fix everything. You just need to be steady, reduce the load and let her know she is not alone.
What to say
- · “I can see this feels too much tonight.”
- · “You do not have to explain it perfectly.”
- · “I am going to take over for a bit.”
- · “You are not doing this alone.”
What not to say
- · “At least the baby is fine.”
- · “You should be enjoying this.”
- · “I am tired too.”
- · “Just tell me exactly what you need.”
What to do now
- · Take the baby if it is safe and appropriate.
- · Bring water and food without being asked.
- · Do one visible task without asking her to plan it.
- · Ask whether she wants you to sit with her, take over or help contact someone.