Example wording library
Short phrases you can adapt to your own circumstances. Please discuss your preferences with your maternity team.
About me and my birth partner
- “My birth partner is with me. I would like them to be included in conversations wherever possible.”
Place of birth and environment
- “Where possible, I would like a calm environment with dim lighting and minimal noise.”
- “I would like to use music, breathing techniques and personal comfort items if this is suitable for the setting.”
Communication and language
- “Please explain things in plain English and include my birth partner in conversations wherever possible.”
Pain relief and comfort
- “I would like to try breathing, movement and relaxation first where possible.”
- “I am open to discussing pain relief if I need it and would like my options explained clearly.”
Movement and positions
- “Where possible, I would like to stay mobile and use upright or forward leaning positions.”
Second stage and birth
- “If everything is safe, I would prefer calm support and guidance rather than being rushed.”
- “I would like immediate skin to skin after birth where possible.”
Third stage and cord preferences
- “If safe and appropriate, I would like my options around cord clamping and placenta delivery explained clearly.”
If plans change
- “If plans need to change, please explain what is happening, why it is being recommended, what the options are and what happens next.”
Caesarean birth preferences
- “If a caesarean becomes the safest option, I would like clear explanations and for my birth partner to be present where possible.”
After birth and feeding
- “I would like skin to skin after birth where possible and support with feeding.”
Questions for my maternity team
- “Are my preferences realistic for my circumstances and chosen place of birth?”
- “If plans change quickly, how will you explain what is happening?”